It's been such a long time since my last post because I've been busier than ever. There wasn't really much time to write a blog post between uni, my baby and work.
Now, let's go to the main point:
How to be both a successful student and a good mother
It may sound a bit "impossible" or hard to achieve, at least, but I can ensure you that it is totally possible and not so hard to achieve as it seems.
As with many goals, one of the most important things you need is discipline and motivation, but I will give you some tips and tricks to keep those virtues up too!
We all know that being a mother involves a lot of responsibility, and so does to be a student. But there are many things you can do to make the journey less stressful and more enjoyable:
- Use the time in which your baby or toddler sleeps.
It sounds a pretty obvious but this tip involves more than just "the baby is sleeping, let's do something I can't do while he/she is awake".
Determine which things you can do with little or no concentration. In my case I don't need silence to clean, check my e-mail, tidy my bedroom or even reading some kinds of things I have to read. So, I use the time in which my baby is awake and playing or making those loud noises to do those activities that don't need me to be fully focused.
On the other hand, I take advantage of her sleeping time to read complex texts, study and sometimes, when I need it, to take a nap.
Pssst!! You'll probably find yourself wishing to spend time with your little one once you have been studying an hour or so. (that happens to me!)
- Study with your kid(s).
Yes, it doesn't seem to be something possible, but if you have to read something to study, you can read it aloud and your baby will maybe be attracted to hear you speaking. I don't know how much would it last, but it is true that when you hear and think about what you say, you can remember it in a better way.
- Find someone who can take care of your little one
You should take your child to the nursery or you can find someone (maybe her/his father or grandparents) who is happy with the idea of minding him/her regularly. This is essential because you will eventually need to attend classes.
- Try to have an income which doesn't demands you much time.
There are several scholarships for students and several other for students that have children. I got both of them. It's not much money but thanks to those little incomes, I don't have to work.
I also give english/spanish lessons in my house (1 hour a day or something) and therefore, I have a little more money to spend in not-so-necessary stuff.
- When it is time to go to bed, go to bed together.
You will need to be rested and in a good mood to study and/or attend classes. If your baby doesn't sleep through the night, don't worry, you won't be sleep deprived forever.
- Stay motivated.Think about how happy will you be once you finished your career or whatever you are studying. Every goal has a reward.
These are some things I do to achieve my goal. I hope you've found it interesting and useful, if you feel you can add another piece of advice, just write it down in the comments and I will love to read it.